When the tears run out

This week I’ve been mostly thinking about Happy Valley the hit UK show set in Yorkshire. I couldn’t believe the last episode was here so soon as I’ve come to look forward to the show so much. The lead character is so human, so complex I’m smitten! It’s hard to comprehend how she’s survived all the drama and how she keeps caring and smiling. 

I think we tend though to put ourselves as women in the impossible situation of either being fragile, beautiful and caring or tough, independent and streetwise. Catherine’s character seems so fully formed and all encompassing its dazzling on a mainstream tv show.

The women I’ve met like Catherine who can embrace all sides of life have sadly had their own suffering to deal with. When the tears run out they carry on and learn to live again despite the heartache.  Mary Berry also reminded me of this in her Easter show, when she mentioned they always raise a glass to her son on Easter Day who died as a teenager. There is something amazing about how as an older woman she lights up Bake off with a grace and charm which is incomparable. 

In Luke 2 v34 When Mary and Joseph took Jesus as a baby to the temple for an initiation ceremony, they were met by an old man called Simeon who immediately recognised Jesus as his saviour- when he had finished praising God he said to Jesus parents what he saw for him;

“Then Simeon blessed them, and he said to Mary, the baby’s mother, “This child is destined to cause many in Israel to fall, but he will be a joy to many others. He has been sent as a sign from God, but many will oppose him. As a result, the deepest thoughts of many hearts will be revealed. And a sword will pierce your very soul.””

‭‭Luke‬ ‭2:34-35‬ ‭NLT‬‬M

This Easter let’s pray for all those parents like Mary and Joseph who’s souls have been pierced by a sword of sorrow in losing a child and thank God that there is light and life and joy  as well as suffering in this world.

Bad things happen to good people

Hi, this week has been a washout in our house – lots of different viral infections joined us at my daughters birthday party. Coincided with some great stuff happening at work and our daughter turning five. We haven’t left the house much and I’m practicing my nursing skills and trying not to be too grumpy!

I don’t know about you but I always feel it’s unfair when we get ill. It’s just one of those things but I always look for a reason.

As a child I didn’t understand why things aren’t fair in life, and probably  still struggle with that. I’m no different to anyone else – I’m no saint -but it seems sometimes that some people get an easier uride.

I’ve learnt not to worry about that so much now as I have so many blessings such as my family and friends and I’ve had lots of amazing adventures over the years! I’ve decided it’s  not worth investing energy in relationships that don’t grow and change however much you’d like to;better to notice the good stuff

Easter for us Christians is gods way of saying that bad things happen to good people.

There wasn’t anything Jesus could do to avoid the cross – even though his disciples begged him – that has always been a mystery to me , despite the message that he died for me – it still seems unfair.

What I do know though is that there isn’t a situation going on for anyone that God doesn’t care about and Jesus’ death was like a deep wound that helped God understand how broken down and miserable we all feel at times as well as the joy and happy times. He gets it;

“O LORD, you have examined my heart and know everything about me. You know when I sit down or stand up. You know my thoughts even when I’m far away. You see me when I travel and when I rest at home. You know everything I do. You know what I am going to say even before I say it, LORD.”
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭139:1-4‬ ‭NLT‬‬